When I mention "unsolicited advice," I am not talking about people who post general tweets, general tips and general non-insulting suggestions and advice in their own social media spaces. I am talking about people who directly contact me with paternalistic, unwanted and ableist comments, requests and demands for my work, undesired and unprompted. Anyone who cannot see the difference here is someone that I cannot trust to respect my boundaries let alone my work. Addtionally, anyone who conflates actual client to creator engagement (such as questions about something purchased) with paternalistic unsolicited advice is actively and harmfully intellectually dishonest.
I am really grateful for thoughtful and respectful supporters, patrons, customers and clients. But, I wish that the respectful and kind people that I deal with were enough to offset the disrespectful, paternalistic, ignorant, passive aggressive and ableist people. Unfortunately I am not so lucky and neither is my health. The cumulative stress of navigating this social media plague on a daily and at times hourly basis, for several years now, takes its toll.
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